what's your enneagram?


I’m obsessed with all things personality and have taken just about every big test there is out there: Meyers-Briggs, numerology, The Four Tendencies, you name it. I’m an INTJ, 6 life path, questioner if you’re wondering. Although my favorite measure is the Enneagram. I swear people probably get tired of me talking about it, but there’s just so much depth and interesting insights with this test!

I wanted to share a little bit about the Enneagram as well as some thoughts about my own type just because it might tell you more about me and also intrigue you to learn more about your own personality. I think combining insights from Enneagram and Meyers-Briggs can be super useful for understanding yourself and how you move through the world.

First things first, if you don’t know your Enneagram number, take the test here. Once you have your number, there are tons of websites where you can read all about your type and even some really cool Instagram accounts like @enneagramandcoffee and podcasts such as Typology. I promise you’ll want to know the numbers of all your friends and family so that you can compare and figure out why you like each other or why you argue.

There’s a lot of complexity to the Enneagram, so there’s a lot to dig into and study. This is a really good place to start for understanding what the chart means and how all of those lines connect. It’s even more interesting when you compare your Enneagram with your Meyers-Briggs or even your astrological sign. You may find that there are contradictions, but then you realize that human personalities do tend to be pretty contradictory. I find that when I blend my INTJ personality with my Taurus sign and my Enneagram, it all paints this really eerily accurate picture of my personality.

So, I’m an Enneagram 4w3 (four wing three) which essentially means that I’m a Type 4 who has aspects of Type 3. To better make sense of this, you should know that the Enneagram is a circle. If you’re a 4, you have two wing possibilities. You’re either a 4w3 or a 4w5 because those are the numbers that connect to the four. As far as I understand, you couldn’t be a 4w7 or a 1w5, because they don’t connect along the outer circle.

The inner lines represent the paths we follow when we go through shifts in behavior or awareness. For instance, as a Type 4, my line connects to Type 2 and Type 1, my dynamic points. Here’s some more information about moving along the lines and what those inner triangles mean. In this post, they say that the Wing Point is like a neighbor. It’s easy for you to move over and adopt the point of view. Whereas your Dynamic Point isn’t easy to visit. It would require a major shift in perspective.

We each have two Dynamic Points, one forward and one backward. As you can see in the chart, my Type Four connects forward to Type 2 and backward to Type 1. This means that in times of stress, I can move to Type 2 to access some knowledge or resource to move forward in the world even though it’s uncomfortable. On the flip side, Type 1 is my relaxation point. Moving here means I’m inhabiting a personality trait that I find important for my development. It’s kind of funny that my relaxation point is Type 1, because both of my parents are actually Type 1s (my mom is 1w2 and my dad is 1w9, which is even weirder when you look into it more).


More About Type 4

A four is called everything from The Individualist to The Romantic to The Romantic Individualist. But, I’ve seen a 4w3 called “The Aristocrat” and that makes total sense to me. 😅 Some key motivations for Fours are to surround ourselves with beauty, curate an individual image, and to find themselves and their significance.

Some famous Fours are Rumi, Jackie Kennedy, lots of classical composers, Virginia Woolf, Anne Frank, Anais Nin, Tennessee Williams, Hank Williams (the fact that both Hank and Tennessee are on the list reminds me of the song “Good Ole Boys Like Me” haha), Frida Kahlo, Diane Arbus, Judy Garland, James Dean, Francis Bacon, and Vincent Van Gogh (the most four Four of all time if you ask me).

I’ve always found it interesting that Type 4 consists of so many sensitive, artistic types whereas my fellow INTJs are people like Thomas Jefferson, JFK, Augustus Caesar, Vladimir Lenin, Nikola Tesla, Stephen Hawking, Sartre, Karl Marx, and Elon Musk. That contradiction is intriguing and poses a lot of questions about how I should be utilizing those dual personalities.