your plan for a self-loving valentine's day


Happy Friday! I hope you’ve all been having a really great month so far. After this weekend, we’re going into the week of Valentine’s Day, a topic I mentioned my thoughts on in this month’s letter. Since this month’s editorial theme is self-love, I wanted to share some ideas for ways to spend this Valentine’s Day that promote that.

read something inspiring //
Spend the evening (or week) reading a book that will inspire you to be the best version of yourself and to love who you truly are. I recommend You Are a Badass, Spirit Junkie, How To Love Yourself (And Sometimes Others), and Big Magic.

watch something romantic //
Now’s the perfect time to watch something sweeping and romantic, even if it may not be about 'romantic love’. It could be a traditional romantic comedy like Crazy Rich Asians, You’ve Got Mail, and Notting Hill which will all put you in a good mood with the humor and gorgeous scenery. Or, it could be something more classically romantic such as Gone With the Wind, Casablanca, Roman Holiday, and Funny Face.

bake a treat for yourself or to share //
For me at least, baking is a really calming and grounding activity to do and it results in something really delicious. Whether you’re keeping it all to yourself or inviting friends over to share, it’d be fun to spend the evening baking before settling in with your book or movie. Some ideas are a classic chocolate tart, Chloe Coscarelli’s chocolate chip cookies (with or without ice-cream), and the best fudgy brownies.

book a massage or facial //
If you need an excuse to treat yourself to a day at the spa, I’m providing you with an excuse! My local spa has this amazing package where you get a massage, facial, and pedicure as well as access to all of the facilities like sauna, stone loungers, and whirlpool for only about $135 and this is a gorgeous spa, mind you. See if any of your local spas have package deals like that because it’s so worth it!

have an at-home spa night //
If you can’t make it in to the spa, it’s easy to create your own experience right at home. Create a list of treatments you want to do, choose a chill playlist, then up the ante with some fruit or cucumber infused water. My favorite spa routine is to dry brush, take an amazing bath with salts and soaks while doing a face mask and hair mask, then follow up with a moisturizing body mask and DIY manicure/pedicure. 💅

write yourself a love letter //
This idea takes simple journaling a step further. Something nice to do any day of the year but especially around Valentine’s Day is to remind yourself that you’re always your own number one Valentine by writing yourself a love letter. It might seem silly at first, but writing down your accomplishments and the qualities you like about yourself is a really powerful exercise for your self-esteem.

create a positive mantra //
I love repeating my mantras every morning before I start the day and periodically switch them up depending on the situation. Use this week to develop your own positive mantra to put you in the right state of mind. I really like Jennifer Lopez’s mantras as well as these self love affirmations.